Unfortunately for most men, women are a pain in the ass when it comes to putting out. We are built with this “Princess” mentality. You know the type, “take care of me, serve me, please me, me, me, me.” Typically followed by, “I want it now. No. Not now. Yes. Now. Maybe?”. Can you say mixed signals?
Rather than trying to convince your wife to have sex with you, just show her loving affection, hold back on the pawing and let her come to you.
For the sake of this post, I am going to assume that you (husband) are a nice* guy. *Not an asshole.
If you are one of the many men out there forced into bouts of celibacy by a wife that guards her vagina like Fort Knox then please read on.
Women in general just want to be treated nice. Simple, right? Wrong!
Well, the formula is pretty simple and really a no brainer. You just have to remember that even though you could be ready for sex at the drop of a hat, women need fluffing. I’m not talking about foreplay that starts minutes before you want to get laid either.
I’m talking about fluffing for days, weeks and sometimes months.
Wait!
Come back here!
It shouldn’t take months. Women, like most people, just want to be appreciated and made to feel special.
I understand that you might be a hardworking man, one that busts his ass every day to make a living. I’m sure the last thing you want to do is more work just to get into your wife’s pants, but it does take work.
Keep in mind that always asking for sex, hinting for sex, or just straight up demanding sex will not fly with most women, but rather push them away. I use the word “most” loosely, as there are a fair share of women willing and wanting to submit to their husbands every need at any given moment. I am going to assume this is not your situation, otherwise stop reading and just go do your wife already.
Let’s start with some of the more “this is the last thing I want to do” stuff.
The Hardest Trick
Help Around the House – No, you don’t need to do everything, but a small gesture can have a big impact.. Even if it’s something simple, like doing the dishes one time, or just surface cleaning (that’s where you just take care of any eye sores around the house, making it look like you did more than you actually did). You don’t even need to do a great job, just something that says, “I want to help make your life easier, wifey.” If your wife thanks you, just tell her that you wish you could help out more, especially knowing how hard she works too. Those few little lines will make her appreciate you, therefore, seeing you a little differently. She will see you as a man that appreciates her.
The Sneaky Tricks
Try to restrain yourself from begging and you may be surprised to see your wife initiate sex with you for once.
Plant Seeds – I don’t mean gardening. Rather, drop hints about how she makes you feel. Please, oh please, don’t just say, “hey! you make me horny and I can’t wait to stick my dick in you. Bada-bing.” Plant seeds like, “next time we both have energy, there are some things I’d like to do to please you,” (psst… I’m suggesting that you mean eat her pussy by the way). By saying something along those lines, you are clear that you don’t mean right now, and that you want to do things for her. It will make you sound like you are not some needy, selfish bastard. Also be generous with the compliments. Like, “wow! you look great today, did you do something different? Even if nothing is different, she will feel a little better knowing that you think she looks good. If you are not the the guy that typically dishes out compliments, then tread lightly, she might assume you want something if you go over the top with flattery.
Touching – Tease her a little. If you get the chance to brush up against her, or touch her lightly, then do so. Don’t be one of those guys that just waits until it’s “sex” time to touch your wife. A gentle touch, kiss, or hug, can go a long way. Especially if you don’t turn them into sexual gestures and keep them as more intimate encounters instead. With enough of this behavior, your wife will mostly likely come to you for sex, it just takes a little time.
Her Good Mood – Is your wife in a good mood? Take advantage of it. Did something exciting happen in her day? If it’s celebration worthy, take her out to dinner. Be happy for her. Show an interest. Buy her flowers. Even if she is just happy that her day went smoothly, tell her she deserves it.
Jealousy – Try making her a little jealous but careful with this one. When I say, “make her a little jealous”, I don’t mean go cheat. You can be subtle though, and point out someone else that is attractive. I mean small things like saying, “have you ever thought of wearing your hair like hers? I bet you could make it look good like that too.” It’s a roundabout way of saying, “I think that lady looks good, you should try what she is doing.” The goal is to get her competitive instinct to kick in and make her want to gain your attention. But again, be careful, too much of this behavior is dangerous.
A Dirty Movie – Some women are weird when it comes to watching porn, or even admitting that it turns them on. Skip your typically spank bank porn flick and get an actual movie with top notch actors and some steamy sex scenes, plot included. Unless of course your lady is okay with porn, then get porn, it’s quicker. Anything that will get her juices flowing (but please don’t make comments about how sexy you find the chick in the movie, I hope that is self-explanatory).
A Dirty Book – Does she like to read? There are plenty of dirty books out there nowadays that let the imagination run wild. They can be a real turn on, just be okay with the fact that she might be worked up over a character in a book. Who cares though? You will reap the benefits in the long run.
Get Her Liquored Up – A little booze can help your wife to loosen up and drop some of her inhibitions. Moderation is key though, you don’t want her to pass out on you before you get anything out of her.
Groom Yourself – People tend to get “comfortable” once they are married and forget to put any effort into their appearance. I’m sure when you started dating you took a little extra time to put yourself together. Making sure you were at least showered and groomed down below, on the off chance that she would put out after your dinner or movie date. Get back to that man, throw on some cologne, and pretend you are about to go on a date. Always be prepared to get laid but don’t expect it. Constantly expecting, wanting and requesting is a turn-off.
I recommend trying all of the above or picking what you think might work for you. Just try it for a couple of weeks – women have needs too. Don’t hound her for sex, but make her feel sexy and appreciated. Simple ways to make your wife want to have sex with you and most of it comes down to being a decent guy, not being lecherous and in the end she will come to you for it.
